Relationship Anxiety: How to Know The You're in the Right Relationship

Relationships are one of the most meaningful parts of our lives, but they can also be a significant source of anxiety. It’s natural to question whether you’re in the right relationship, especially during moments of doubt or conflict. Relationship anxiety doesn’t necessarily mean something is wrong.

This article explores the signs of relationship anxiety and provides evidence-based strategies to help you determine if your relationship aligns with your values and emotional well-being.

What Is Relationship Anxiety?

Relationship anxiety refers to feelings of doubt, worry, or insecurity about your partnership. It can manifest in different ways:

• Overthinking

• Fear of Rejection

• Emotional Avoidance

These feelings are common in relationships, especially during transitions like moving in together, or considering marriage, or when unresolved personal insecurities are triggered.

Signs Good Relationships:

It's hard to know for sure whether or not you are in the right relationship, so here are a few simple signs that you're onto a winner:

1. You Share the Same Values: Shared values such as those regarding family, finances, and future goals create a sense of partnership and purpose. Differences are inevitable, but couples who align on core principals are more likely to overcome challenges together.

2. You Feel Safe and Respected: Emotional safety creates a strong foundation for healthy relationships. It's important to feel free to express your thoughts, feelings, and concerns without fear of criticism or rejection.

3. You Can Resolve Conflicts Effectively: Conflict is natural, healthy, and important in relationships for couples to maintain independence and get back on the same page. Dr John Gottman, reports that successful couples have positive conflict resolution characterised by humour, active listening, and compromise.

   
   

Below is Robert Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love. Sternberg posits that couples who prioritise intimacy, passion, and commitment form healthy, lasting relationships. That is not to say that they don't also experience difficulties, but rather that their shared values, respect, conflict resolution, intimacy, passion, and commitment to each other help to bring them back together.

The right relationship isn’t perfect, but it should feel safe, fulfilling, and aligned with your values. If you’re struggling to find clarity, seeking professional guidance can help you make informed decisions for your emotional well-being.